Sleepwalking in Bereaved Children: When School Becomes a Place for Alert and Support

When a Simple Phrase Triggers an Alert

Mrs. Carter did not hesitate for a moment. As soon as she heard something she deemed concerning, she immediately informed the school administration and social services. That very evening, two police officers accompanied by a social worker went to the home of Margaret, Lucas’s grandmother. From a lit window, a silhouette could be seen moving. Yet, no one responded to the knocking at the door. Then, a muffled whisper was heard: “Grandma, leave me alone!” Faced with this distressing situation, emergency responders forced their way inside.

Inside, the scene was heart-wrenching. Lucas was lying on the floor, his eyes wide open but vacant, empty. He appeared to be in a dissociative state. Suddenly, he turned toward the open window and, in a low voice, he murmured in struggle: “I have to find my mom.”

Margaret broke down in tears and revealed a truth previously unknown: Lucas suffered from sleepwalking.

The Mystery of the Small Fabric Ribbons

It had all begun about two months after the sudden death of Lucas’s parents, who were victims of a car accident. On the very first night, Margaret found him asleep at the foot of the stairs. The next time, she caught him in front of the front door. On the third occasion, around three in the morning, one of Lucas’s legs was sticking out of the first-floor window, six meters above the paved ground.

Lucas kept saying that his mother was calling him from outside.

Margaret tried every possible solution: strengthening locks, which Lucas opened without waking; installing alarm systems that the child deactivated in his sleep; placing furniture in front of the windows. She even slept on the floor next to his bed. But at nearly seventy years old, the exhaustion caused by lack of sleep eventually caught up with her.

So, she made small soft fabric ribbons—not to tie Lucas to his bed, but to wake her at the slightest movement. In a drawer, she keeps a thick file full of documents: medical results, specialist assessments, psychological reports. She hid nothing from the doctors, but at school, she remained silent about the situation for fear her custody of her grandson might be taken away.

Support That Changed Everything

The social worker listened attentively without judgment. Soon, the situation improved positively. Lucas received comprehensive care: specialists confirmed that his grief and sleep disorder were feeding into each other. His room was secured with appropriate safety devices. Margaret received regular support, and Lucas began therapy.

A few weeks later, he stayed after school to talk with his teacher. Looking at his wrists, smooth and without a single mark, he smiled:

“Grandma doesn’t tie my hands anymore. Now, we have an alarm. And at night, I don’t hear Mom calling me anymore.”

Mrs. Carter felt her throat tighten. Lucas added in a low voice, “Grandma says Mom wants me to stay here.”

Before rushing to judge appearances, it is always important to listen to what remains unseen.